Are you certain that the boards are getting damaged, and they don't work again if you let them cool down?
Are they genuine Duet boards purchased from Duet3d.com or from one of our resellers? Genuine TMC2660 chips from Trinamic are now very reliable, but it could be that cloned boards use cloned or reject chips.
As shown in the video, disconnecting motors while under load doesn't normally cause the drivers to fail. OTOH a short circuit across a motor coil, or between one of the motor wires and ground, is much more likely to cause a failure.
HTH David